Simple ways to get along with your family

Everyone is part of a family, even if they don't want to be. Our family is responsible for helping to shape us into the person we are today. They deserve our love, respect, and appreciation even if they don't fully return it to us. This article will discuss some simple ways you can get along with your family.
First, start by learning to accept them for who they are. So maybe you have a sister that talks really loud and embarrasses you or a father that likes to read books while you are playing basketball, it doesn't matter, they are still your family and you need to love them for who they are. Make a list of their good qualities and some of the things that you have in common. When you are around them, strike up a conversation about these similar interests.

Second, be mindful of your behavior. You're not a child anymore so the days of teasing your little brother need to be behind you. Treat your siblings as your equals and respect them for the things they have accomplished in life. If you are going to a dinner or party with them, spend some time to determine how you want to behave. Make sure you think about your behavior before you react to things or you could easily start an argument with some of your relatives. Try to avoid some of the past unpleasant experiences in the family by contributing to a harmonious environment. To help create harmony, think about some of the topics that are okay to discuss.
For example, the recent NFL game is okay to discuss, however your cousin getting divorced is probably not the best dinner conversation. Be mindful of everyone in your family and be sensitive to their feelings. Asking your brother why he and his wife aren't pregnant yet is a little personal and it can be hurtful if they are struggling to get pregnant. Don't criticize them for their behavior and some of the habits they have like smoking or flakiness.

Third, respect others traditions. When you are invited back to your parent's home to share time with your family, be mindful of your parents rules. Maybe you don't go to church anymore but your parents are avid church goers, instead of making a fuss over praying, be respectful of their commitment to their religion and just shut your eyes for a minute. For many families, tradition is important. While it may bother you to eat the same meal every time you come home; think about your parents and your siblings that may actually enjoy this tradition.
Fourth, know your limits. Even though they are your family and you love them, know how much of them you can take. If you feel yourself getting frustrated with your brother's constant belittling or your mother's criticism, find some other things to do while you are there. Try changing the topic or excuse yourself for a few minutes so you can lock the door to a bedroom and just relax. If you have had enough family time, go home! It is better to leave a little early than to explode on someone on your family because you are frustrated, cranky, and tired.

Fifth, remember that this is your family. Don't compare them to everyone Else's families that you may think are "perfect." Truth is, no one's family is perfect, they are all dysfunctional in their own way. Learn how to love YOUR family and make steps to keep your relationship with them strong. In the end, they will be the people that help you through the good times and the bad times.